Etiquette

Don’t Interfere with the Action

No matter what those two (three, four…) are doing — don’t get in their way. If something seems off, call an organiser (they can be identified by their badges).

Interfering with the action isn’t limited to using your hands. Here’s what you definitely shouldn’t do:

• Make faces at the model
• Lean on the frame or bondage table the model is secured in
• Point fingers
• Laugh loudly or talk right next to the action
• Touch things
• Try to “help”
• Try to squeeze through a spot where a whip or flogger is flying

Some of these things have actually happened in real life. Just show a bit more respect to those who are practising. Your inappropriate actions or comments can ruin all the fun for them (and for other spectators).

Do Not Touch Participants After the Scene Ends

For spectators, the scene ends when the model is being untied. But for the session participants, this time is just as important as the session itself. They need to calm down, come to their senses, cuddle, and drink some water.

Give them space. When you see that they are once again paying attention to those around them — only then may you approach, express your admiration, and ask questions.

Don't Touch Others Without Consent

You might think that the woman tied to the cross is just waiting for a spank on her bottom. Or that it would be lovely to pet that pup at their owner's feet. But they are still a person, even if in a somewhat vulnerable state.

Always ask for permission. If you want to touch someone's bottom — ask both the top and the bottom for permission. We are not a hardcore BDSM club, but a social party.

Don’t Take Others’ Belongings Without Permission

If you feel like touching a rope or holding a flogger in your hands — ask the owner. Most likely, they will not only allow it but also tell you all about it. If they don’t allow it — don’t be upset; there were good reasons for that.

Be Prepared to See Something You Might Not Like

YMMV — Your Mileage May Vary. The principle is serious. We have diverse tastes.

At previous parties, you might have seen: wax play, flogging, bound people suspended from ropes, kittens, people in diapers, fire/breath/water play, pony girls, sensual performances, needles in skin, tickling, leather harnesses.

If you don't like a particular performance — head to the bar. If you don't like a person — don't look at them. But if something disgusts you and you don't want to be in that space — perhaps this party isn't for you? Be tolerant.

Other

• Actively avoid conflicts. If something goes wrong — you've likely misunderstood each other. Clear it up — good. If not — stop communicating. If it's really bad — contact the organisers.
• We don't charge for scenes. If you enjoyed a performance and would like something similar — come up and ask. That's perfectly fine. If someone asks you for money — refuse and inform the organisers.
• See a violation — report it. Even if it doesn't concern you. Next time, it might.